More Than Just Friends?

By: elise

August 3rd, 2011 • Related • Filed Under

What if you were attracted to a friend and you wanted to be more than just friends? Would you make the first move? Or would you just keep it all to yourself and hope your feelings go away because you’re worried about losing your friendship?

It is not uncommon to find ourselves getting attracted to or falling for friends of the opposite sex, but taking it a step further is where things really start to get complicated. Should you take a chance and see where it might lead?

Taking a risk like that could go either way – it could either end well where both of you end up as a happy couple, or you could risk making your friendship awkward and quite possibly lose that friendship altogether if the other person doesn’t take it well.

Before you make a decision on whether or not you should go for it, here is what you should consider (and this applies to both men and women – after all, why can’t women make the first move too, right?):

• Weigh Your Options Carefully: Remember that if you do decide to tell your friend how you feel, it could go either way. What you need to ask yourself is are you prepared to take that risk? And do you want to be with him or her badly enough to make the move?

• Are You Prepared To Risk Friendship: In the event that your friend does say no, you need to consider how you can smooth over the awkward moment and try to salvage your friendship so you don’t risk losing the person as a friend as well. Maybe be say something like it’s no big deal and at least you know where you stand, right?

• Does He/She Feel The Same: You need to consider if your friend feels the same, or if he/she COULD quite possibly feel the same and they are just as worried as you are about making a move.

• How Do You Do It: Think about the best way you would approach your friend and tell him or her how you feel. Simply blurting it out is not the way to go, and it should ideally be done in a setting where you are both feeling comfortable and at ease with each other.

Take your time thinking about it before you make a move. After all, this is a big step and shouldn’t be rushed. Good luck!

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